One gal I read did a post recently where she says that living Vintage saved her marriage....and I have say that I get it. Adopting the ways for the 50's housewife gives both parties a frame to hang their expectations on, and actually makes life easier. Bear with me, here.
In the workplace, every worker KNOWS what he is supposed to do, and when. You don't get a job and then get free reign to do whatever you want; you get a job with a defined list - written or not - of things that MUST be done. Usually, you even get a flow chart saying WHEN something has to be done. Everyone knows their place; things run smoothly (I'm going to ignore those slackers that look for ways to get out of work. There's one/a few in every bunch.) You know what your boss's expectations are, you know what you need to do, and you know what your co-workers are supposed to do. Sure, sometimes you have to help out your co-worker - and vice/versa - but on the whole, you have your job, and everyone else has theirs.
In marriage today, that's been broken down. Thanks to Women's Lib, women are supposed to do/have it all. They are expected to work a full-time job, keep house, cook the meals, take care of the kids, take care of the husband, AND stay in shape. The husband? His duties haven't changed - he goes to work, then comes home and sits. :sigh:
Now. This doesn't work - there's simply not time for a woman to do it all, so....most modern women don't. And a lot of men are feeling the stress - they come home to a messy house, out-of-control kids, harried wife....it's a mess. (Yes, me too - it's why I'm trying to get a handle on things myself. I'm better than I was when I was working, but I still have a ways to go.I DO have a routine, now, thanks to the total house makeover; things should flow smoothly once I get everything put back together.)
I'm not advocating that EVERY woman adopt a vintage lifestyle. Some women do have to work full-time. I just think that society would be better IF, somehow, people knew their place. Which sounds horrible, but I can't think of a better way to say it. There's no "one size fits all" solution here.
I think, if maybe new marrieds were encouraged to make a....a chore chart, for lack of a better term, that both could live with, that specified who does what, and approximately when, I think we'd see a reduction in the divorce rate, stress levels would go down, and most people would be happier. I know, that sounds so corny......but honestly? People ARE happier and stress-free when they know what is expected of them. No one can have it all.......and to think that you can, but aren't achieving it, adds stress, raises unhappiness levels, and messes with your head.
I'm still mulling this over in my head, so this may not make a lot of sense.
OH!!! On our walk last night, we went to the City Park. Guess what we saw????? *2* Bald Eagles!!!!!!!! They flew too fast for me to catch them on my phone, but - *2* Bald Eagles!!!!!!! That was SO COOL!!!!
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