I don't eff'n believe this!
Mar. 8th, 2006 @ 03:11 pm
The guy - the one with the busy hands from this weekend - emailed me Monday. No biggie - I had given him the addy Sat. mornin - I decided I would be nice and answer him. He wanted to come out and see the horses and dogs......I was nice, but told him plainly "not to expect ANYTHING" and "we are pretty busy weekend-wise for the next month or so".
Most guys would get the hint.....not him.
He has decided that "if I had a spare room" he "would enjoy getting away to the country for the weekend". WTF?????
No. Nononononononononononono - not just no, but HELL No. I'm going to let someone with apparant stalker tendancies, that I JUST EFF'ng MET have a *sleepover* at my house????? Let's not even mention that I have *2* young children I have to be a good example to.....and protect. I had thought my comments Sunday about my over-protective LARGE dogs, and my dead-eye accuracy with my .45 would cool his jets.....
So - give me ideas. Apparantly I'm too nice to get the point across. (Oh, and at the moment, (and forever, if I stay smart) he has no clue of my "fiberaddict" ID. No idea of the webpage or this LJ. Let 'er rip!)
What a creep! I'm sorry he can't take a hint.
While I tend to be too nice too, I think it's time to be blunt. Maybe tell him that:
A. You're not running a Bed & Breakfast.
B. If he wants to see pictures of horses and dogs, Google them.
C. He needs to seriously reconsider his approach to women - like, scaring them the wrong way to go.
D. Your son is fierce with a light saber!
|Date:||March 8th, 2006 10:59 pm (UTC)|| |
You asked for it! ^.~
I would suggest you email him back and state, clearly but not nastily, that you didn't invite him over and either do not wish to hear from him again OR do not want him to be so forward (whichever you prefer). Don't explain yourself or apologize for any misunderstanding, just make it simple, straight and to-the-point.
Then, if he keeps coming on like this, tell him that he is harrassing you and that if he persists, you will contact the authorities.
And if he does persist, follow through.
(I don't know the laws where you live, but it seems to me that this DOES constitute harrassment, or stalking, or something, and you should have the right to do something about it.)
That's my advice. Hope he gets the idea. What an ass.
|Date:||March 8th, 2006 11:01 pm (UTC)|| |
Um...when I said "You asked for it," I meant the advice
, not this creep's behaviour. Just wanted to make sure that was clear!
(Yes, I stole your icon.)
if all of the above fails, let me at him. I have been known to be diplomatic on occasions and I don't mind having a "Come to Jesus" dialogue with him.
Seriously, szara gave you the best advice. State yourself clearly and tell him that he's making you feel uncomfortable, there is a difference between friendly and *FRIENDLY* and you were being friendly only and that you are not looking for anything. Just because we took him shopping and complimented his puppy, it doesn't mean anything.
|Date:||March 9th, 2006 01:06 am (UTC)|| |
A lot of guys find the fact that a woman can handle weapons attractive, and rarely does it occur to them that you would use the weapons against *them* because obviously if they find you attractive you *must* want them. I don't usually mention weapons proficiencies, why give them warning?
I do think that you are going to have to spell it out to this guy. Personally I would email him and tell him that he has completely misunderstood the situation, he may not visit you at any time, and that you no longer wish contact with him and will take action if he attempts to contact you again.
He sounds like a serious safety risk, I hope he isn't someone you will run into frequently at the faires, and that he doesn't know where you live.
Speaking of addresses, do you need mine for shipping costs on the skeiner? I can't remember if I sent it to you or not.
Tell him Straight out No Way No How. He is not invited to stay or visit. Period.
|Date:||March 9th, 2006 03:12 am (UTC)|| |
I agree with anyone. The only way out of this is point blank "Don't contact me" Telling him why may not make any difference at all, so I personally wouldn't waste my breath. this loser needs to GO!
That was me, LJ must be hiccupping again, I know I signed in this time.