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because Herself has been in a MOOD all morning long. SG and I went out at 7 to milk; the chicks were out. He tried to put them up but couldn't catch them, so he told me to get Herself up when I took the milk up and get her to do it. OK.

I went in, went to her bedroom, and attempted to get her up. She told me "GET OUT", rolled over, and pulled the blankets over her head. All righty, then - what would you have assumed?

I went back to filter the milk, and Himself offered to go catch the chicks. Great! About 5 minutes later, she stomps out of her room, mutters "I WOULD HAVE DONE IT. HE needs to LEAVE my chickens alone!" and shoves past me. I said something about well, *I* didn't know when she'd get up, and I can't let them be cat fodder.....and she stated "I DON'T CARE IF THEY DIE."

She stomped out, yelled at her brother.....and I went out to inform SG of the attitude. :sigh: It's been nothing but excuses from her ever since - apparently I love Himself more than her, because I was polite when he asked me where to put stuff he was trying to clean. I....have no clue. She says nobody loves her, because her attitude towards SG caused her to lose her DS for a month (he's agreed - privately - to let her have it back on her birthday IF she keeps herself under control.). And yet, she doesn't get WHY everybody's on her case right now. (Seriously. I've only touched on the high points here.....she's been totally out of control this AM. And it's only 8:32. :sigh:)

She told us to LEAVE ME ALONE, so she gets to spend the rest of the day in her room. Alone. Her foot is apparently about to fall off, so no swimming (the chlorine might hurt it, after all. And, again - we have to leave her alone.)

I am SO. TIRED. of this. I know part of it is that she had no meds yet - I get that...but when do you ignore the mouthiness? The outright defiance? The total attitude?

AND THEN - Himself is in a helpful mode - which isn't helping. He's cleaning my disaster of a weaving room right now....which is making her even more resentful and attitude-y. I can't win......
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From:Ali Snowdale
Date:May 29th, 2011 03:55 pm (UTC)
I know she is aspie - but really right now she doesn't sound too different from the other teenagers around here. If you talk to them you are either being mean, or treating them like a baby, or an idiot, they just find the most negative thing they can think of and latch onto it.
Although it is a hard thing to do, what helps sometimes is to find one thing you can honestly complement every day. Be careful that is it nothing about appearence - because for some reason they don't want people looking at them at this age and if you notice how they look - well then you must have been looking! Unless it is something that you think she wants noticed - maybe she is wearing earrings that she made and is proud of them - something like that might be ok to notice.

Seriously there were days when I could think of nothing to compliment. Other days it was "I'm glad you enjoyed my dinner" Some days it was "I am happy you are here to help me" "I can see you worked hard on your homework" But you can *not* say - "thank you for helping me without having a crappy attitude" no matter how much you want to! :o) just sincere positive comments.

If she is becoming a normal teenager she will not respond to these comments but she will hear them. And I think they help. Even if all they do is give you good stuff to look for.
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Date:May 29th, 2011 06:27 pm (UTC)
Thank you! I'll try this.....but it's really hard when she's spouting off how nobody listens/cares/she doesn't care....:sigh:

Sincere positive compliments will be hard....but I will try.
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Date:May 29th, 2011 08:52 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I was gonna say it sounds like growing up related crankiness, not neurologically atypical related crankiness. I know people whose kids don't have the kinds of challenges Herself does and they still act like that.
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