|There's something in the air....|
There's something in the air....
May. 29th, 2011 @ 08:39 am
I know she is aspie - but really right now she doesn't sound too different from the other teenagers around here. If you talk to them you are either being mean, or treating them like a baby, or an idiot, they just find the most negative thing they can think of and latch onto it.
Although it is a hard thing to do, what helps sometimes is to find one thing you can honestly complement every day. Be careful that is it nothing about appearence - because for some reason they don't want people looking at them at this age and if you notice how they look - well then you must have been looking! Unless it is something that you think she wants noticed - maybe she is wearing earrings that she made and is proud of them - something like that might be ok to notice.
Seriously there were days when I could think of nothing to compliment. Other days it was "I'm glad you enjoyed my dinner" Some days it was "I am happy you are here to help me" "I can see you worked hard on your homework" But you can *not* say - "thank you for helping me without having a crappy attitude" no matter how much you want to! :o) just sincere positive comments.
If she is becoming a normal teenager she will not respond to these comments but she will hear them. And I think they help. Even if all they do is give you good stuff to look for.
Thank you! I'll try this.....but it's really hard when she's spouting off how nobody listens/cares/she doesn't care....:sigh:
Sincere positive compliments will be hard....but I will try.
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