everbody has them - perhaps you hide a stash of "special" chocolate, to be eaten by you, in private. Or perhaps you enjoy reading "trash" novels......mine? Has recently become reading - and collecting - vintage Good Housekeeping magazines (from the mid-1940's - mid 1950's).
I think it's because I think it's the last time we as a society got things *right*. Moms were supposed to be home for the kids and husband, husband was supposed to support the family.....we've drifted a LONG way from that, to our detriment.
I never lived those days - I was born in 1968! - but......I can't recall any of my friends having a stay-at-home Mom. Some of them came from broken homes (do they even call them that, anymore?). NONE of us came home to anyone at home - we were "latch-key" kids before that term was coined. And.....we're seeing a lot of the fall-out from that, now.
And - today's magazines? Are NOTHING like the vintage ones! The GH in my collections are full of realistic fiction, appliance reviews, decorating/organizing tips - even floor plans of new, modern houses! The decorating/organinzing wasn't like today's, either - they were actually budget-minded, with ease of care and efficiency built in. (1 kitchen, 4 ways! Decorating your first house for less than $500! How to choose wallpaper!) And the reviews - were actually Reviews, not just paid advertising masquerading as a review.
I've heard most of my life how women were....demeaned, or reduced in some way back in the '50's, but I don't see that. Women - and men! - knew their place (and I don't mean that in a derogatory way, I mean....you knew what you were supposed to do and everyone was happy, because people ARE happy when they know where they are supposed to be. If that makes sense...) and there seems to be less stress. I mean.....when you know that your job is to take care of the house, and fix meals, then you don't stress over how the bills will be paid. And when you know your job is to go out to a job, work 40 hours/week, then you can come home and relax, because the dishes are done, your clothes are clean, and you have a tidy house - YOU don't stress. It's relaxing, because things tick along like a well-oiled machine.
Look, you CAN'T have it all. You can have a good family life, or you can have a high-powered career that requires 60+ hours/week, but you honestly can NOT HAVE BOTH. Something has to give - and as we've seen - and are seeing! - it's usually the family. It's...sad. And not the way things are supposed to be, I think. Children need 2 parents, and they need full-time care for years. WHY do we (and I am guilty of this, so don't think I'm pointing fingers, here) PAY a stranger to care for our kids, instead of reworking our lives so 1 parent can stay home? Honestly - 1DH and I had already decided it was stupid for me to work - my paycheck paid the daycare. Period. :boggle: We would have been living the exact same lifestyle if I stayed home, and the kids would have been happier (so would I. :grin:) (Daycare was $250/week for 2 kids at the downtown church; we moved the kids closer to home - and further from *me* - and it was STILL $180/week. More in the Summer.)
I don't have all the answers, but I'm thinking women should take a good, hard look at things. (Men typically make more money. Fact of life.) I'm not suggesting homeschooling, but I AM suggesting Mom should stay home. Maybe get a part-time job during school hours, if necessary, but be HOME for the kids and husband. (If there is no husband, well - God Bless you, and see if you can find some way to work from home so you can be there with your kids. It won't be easy - BTDT - but.....hopefully it'll be possible.)
Sexist? No. Just trying to "fix" society....even though I'm pretty sure it's too far gone.
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